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January 2007

One of the lessons learned so far in our discussions with Baby Boomers, is that many care for both children and aging parents. It’s important therefore for us to remind you to take care of yourselves! As we start a new calendar year, may we all remember to take a few moments for self-care.

The below was first printed in The Outstretched Arm issue on Caretaking. To order copies of this publication, contact us as 212.399.2685 ext 216.

The Torah of Self-Care

Three things restore a person’s good spirits: beautiful sounds, sights, and smells.
—  Babylonian Talmud, Berakhot 57B

If I am not for myself, who will be for me?
And if I am only for myself, what am I?
And if not now, when?
—  Pirke Avot 1:14

Why is it, that when caring for a beloved one, the hardest thing to do is to make time to care for ourselves? There are a million reasons — there is no time, my loved one needs me all the time, I feel guilty if I take some time for myself, we can’t afford any help — no doubt you know them all. But these nuggets from our tradition remind us of the importance of self-care. Think about making small signs of them and putting them up as reminders!

And don’t forget the little things that can make such a difference — a bouquet of beautiful flowers, some nourishing and delicious food, a few extra moments in the shower or bath, a favorite piece of music, talking to a friend on the telephone, laughing at a silly sit-com on TV, taking a 10 minute walk around the block, or sitting on the porch in fresh air. Make a list of those things that strengthen you, entertain you, comfort you, or nourish your soul. Perhaps it will help make this kind of self-care a part of your day. And you may find yourself coming back to your caregiving role with renewed vigor, more patience, and the strength to face the next challenge.

These "Spirituality Notes" are excerpts from our monthly E-newsletter. Articles are © JBFCS Rita J. Kaplan Jewish Connections Programs and may be reprinted free of charge as long as this credit line is included.

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